Expert Commentary
Divorce and Co-Parenting
Two households, one child, and a workable schedule.
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Divorce coverage tends to focus on the adults: the legal process, the conflict, the fresh start. The child's experience of moving between two homes gets far less careful attention.
Tammy speaks to co-parenting from the child's point of view, with practical guidance on schedules, communication and consistency. She does not offer legal advice and keeps the focus on what helps children adjust.
Much of a child's experience of separation is practical. Which home has the soccer cleats, who signs the school form, what happens when a handoff runs late, and whether bedtime means the same thing in both places. Tammy treats those details as central rather than trivial, because they shape how secure a child feels moving between two homes.
Stories about co-parenting often reward the dramatic exceptions. The more useful coverage explains the ordinary structures that help most families: predictable handoffs, shared routines and a calm way for adults to disagree away from the children. Tammy speaks to those structures clearly and without taking sides between parents.
Her starting point for co-parents is sequence. Each household, each child's needs and the practical mechanics of the week are mapped first. Priorities and a communication structure come next, so both parents are working from the same picture instead of reacting to the latest disagreement. That structure also gives children a more predictable week, which both parents can offer even when they disagree about much else.
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Angles She Can Speak To
Two homes, one child
How children experience moving between households, and what helps them feel secure in both.
A workable schedule
How co-parents can think about schedules around a child's age, routines and school, not only fairness between adults.
Consistency across households
Which rules and routines matter most to align, and where it is fine for homes to differ.
Telling the children
How parents can prepare for the conversation about separation, and what children tend to need to hear.
Caregivers and new partners
How nannies, grandparents and new partners fit into a co-parenting arrangement without adding confusion.
Holidays and special days
How co-parents can plan birthdays, holidays and school events so children are not caught between households.
How co-parents communicate
Simple structures for sharing information, raising concerns and making decisions without passing messages through the children.
A second transition
How co-parents can prepare a child for a move or a new school while the first change is still settling.
What She Brings
Tammy has twenty years of experience supporting families through transitions, including separation and co-parenting. She speaks to the family structure and the child's adjustment, not to legal strategy.
Her Relationship Maps coaching covers divorce, separation and co-parenting transitions, along with the blended-family roles that can follow. She earned her MSW at Columbia University, became a licensed therapist supporting children, teens and families, and later created the Care Map Method™.
She is available for broadcast segments, print and digital interviews, podcasts, panels and keynotes. Send the outlet, the angle you have in mind and your deadline through the contact form, and note whether the piece is live, taped or written. She can prepare focused talking points for a specific angle.
Media commentary is educational. It does not create a therapist–client relationship, and no client stories or identifying details are ever shared.
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