One call. Then you know what to do.
Sixty minutes with a licensed therapist who has spent twenty years on exactly this decision, hiring a nanny, choosing childcare, or arranging care for a parent.
No package, no retainer, no upsell.
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What happens on the call
Four stages, in one hour.
The same framework whichever decision you're facing. Most families arrive stuck at stage two and discover the problem is stage one.
What you actually need
Before candidates, before tours, before agencies. Most bad hires trace back to a role nobody defined.
Finding the right person or place
What to ask, how to read the answers, and how to choose when two options both look fine.
The first two weeks
The trial, the introduction, the handbook. This is where most arrangements are won or lost, and where almost nobody plans.
Keeping it working
How to ask for things so they get done, how to correct something early, and what to do when it isn't working.
Same call, three situations
Which one are you in?
Hiring a nanny
On your own, or alongside an agency.
- What you're actually hiring for, duties, hours, and your Musts, Pluses and Deal-breakers
- Interview questions for your situation, and what the answers actually tell you
- Reference calls that go past employment dates
- How to run a trial, and what to watch during it
- The offer, the work agreement, and the first two weeks
You leave with a written plan and your own question list, not a pep talk.
Choosing daycare or preschool
Best done before the tours, not after.
- What your child needs from a setting, based on temperament rather than ratings
- What to look for in the first five minutes of a tour
- The questions that reveal quality, and the ones that reveal nothing
- How to compare three places that all seemed fine
- The first month, and how to read a hard drop-off
You leave with a scoring sheet to carry into every tour.
Care for an aging parent
Including the conversation you've been dreading.
- What your parent actually needs, biological, emotional, social and environmental
- Home care or a move, and how to tell which question you're really asking
- Agency or private hire, and what to ask either one
- The introduction, the single moment that decides how this goes
- Siblings who disagree, and a parent who says no
You leave with a plan you can send to your brother.
Worth being clear about
What this isn't.
Not a placement service. I don't supply, source or screen caregivers, and I take no fee from anyone who does.
Not therapy. This is coaching and consulting. If what you need is clinical care, I'll say so and help you find it.
Not legal or tax advice. Wage, overtime, household employment tax and workers' compensation rules vary by state, confirm yours with a qualified professional.
Not a sales call. Nothing is being pitched to you at the end of it. One call, one price.
Before you book
Questions people ask.
How long is it, and how does it work?
Sixty minutes by video. You'll get a short intake form beforehand so we don't spend the first fifteen minutes on background.
What do I actually leave with?
A written recap within two business days, plus whichever tools fit your situation : interview questions, a reference-call script, a tour scoring sheet, or a care plan.
Can both parents be on the call?
Yes, and it helps. Same for siblings arranging care for a parent, disagreement between siblings is usually a large part of the work.
I'm already working with an agency. Is this useful?
Often more useful. The agency sources and verifies. Choosing, onboarding and the first two weeks stay with you, and that's the half this call covers.
What if one call isn't enough?
Most families only need one. If you want more support afterwards, we can talk about it then, but nothing is assumed and nothing is bundled.
Do you work outside California?
Yes. This is coaching and consulting rather than clinical care, so it isn't limited by state licensure. I work with families nationally.
$189. Sixty minutes. One decision, properly made.
Pick a time that works. You'll get the intake form as soon as you book.
Book the callTammy Gold, LCSW · Licensed clinical social worker (CA, NJ, OR) · Columbia University MSW · Coaching and consulting services only.